How to Avoid Confrontation with Your Partner
The foundation of a family lay with two people with different backgrounds and personalities having different ideology, experience and some habits. When these two people start living together and face the daily trials of life conflicts becomes inevitable. You and your spouse must choose how you will act when conflict occurs. A lot of people seek help of couple counseling to save their marriage. Sometimes, sometimes minor issue becomes the reason of conflict that with a little attempt easily could have been prevented. Here are some tips to help you avoid any conflict with your spouse.
Keep The Communication On - The main objective to keep the communication on is to make each other aware of what’s happening between them. Try to listen to each other with calm mind and try to understand what the other feels. If you are not clear on any point ask the question. Asking a question is better than being in confusion. Express yourself clearly so that your partner can understand what you want to say.
Spend As Much Time As You Can With Your Partner - Spending time with your partner will give you the opportunity to understand each other’s habit and what makes the other unhappy or irritated. It will also give you the chance to build trust so that when you are away your partner can trust you. Don’t be confided to the four walls of the home just go outside for a walk at the beach or a park holding hands. It will also improve the intimacy between you two.
Avoid Using Words Like ‘Always, Never’- When confrontation starts avoid using words like you never do this or that, you always do what you want before using these words think is it true about your partner or you are just overreacting. This overusing of the words can get in the way of healthy relationships.
Don’t Assume You are Always Right - Some people think that they know the things and the world better than others and their partner is inexperienced but think twice about it. Everybody has a different perspective to see the things that may be right or wrong. Don’t impose your thinking on your partner, and if your partner has a different opinion or perspective to see the things other than yours then don't take it as a personal attack.
Listening Is The Best Way To Avoid Confrontation - Some people have a habit to interrupt and assuming others before they finish their conversation instead of truly listening and attempting to understand their partner. This keeps you and your partner from seeing each other’s point of view.
Don’t Indulge In Blame Game - Some couples try to win the conflict by demeaning and accusing the other partner for the whole scenario. They think that accepting their own negative points as a failure of their reliability, and neglect it anyhow, and even try to demoralize the other partner by putting all blame on them. Try to see the confrontation as a probability to evaluate the scenario logically, evaluate the needs of both and come up with a remedy that you both agree.
Don’t Try To The Win The Argument By Attacking On Each Other Character Or Using The Past - If your partner did anything wrong in the past, it doesn’t mean you have the right to use it as a shield to cover up your mistakes and to be a winner of the conflict. If you are trying to confirm how incorrect the other person was in the past and still and remaining trapped in your perspective, you targeted in the incorrect direction, do not use your second half's habit as a factor to strike them while disagreeing. This will only make the adverse views on both ends. Make sure to regard each others, even if you don't like his or habit. Take help of couple counseling if the things are going far from your reach.
Don’t Drag Anyone In Your Conflicts - No matter how serious your conflict but dragging other relative or children will gain you nothing especially when they have nothing to do with your conflicts and don’t know the whole story.
Learn To Forgive - No issue how difficult two people try to really like and please each other, they will not succeed, and hurt feelings come with failing. And the only greatest comfort for harm is the relaxing salve of absolution. It means abandoning the anger and the wish to punish, do it with a gentle soul and love.
In most relationships, there are ways of fixing things that are needed most when people are irritated and annoyed. All in all, remind yourself and your partner that instead of all this confrontation you still love and admire each other.