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Why Suicide Is a Bad Idea

There is an old saying; "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". But when you feel like life is unbearable, you lose awareness that your feelings will change. One of the most horrible things about being depressed, and many suicidal people are, is that there is a pervasive sense of hopelessness and despair that nothing you can imagine will relieve. Every thought you have takes you to a dark place, all roads lead to hell.

Whatever the reason is for planning a suicide, here is why it is a terrible idea:

First of all, EVERYTHING changes. Feelings, like the weather, are transient states of being; the clouds roll in and the clouds roll out. We are tremendously fortunate to live in a time where most emotional and mental illness can be successfully treated. It is easy to lose this perspective when emotional pain seems overwhelming. With therapy, time and sometimes medication, life will start to feel livable again.

Another thing to consider when contemplating suicide is that YOUR LIFE IS NOT YOUR OWN TO TAKE. What I mean by this is that suicide leaves devastation in its wake. Most of us are someone's child, parent, spouse, sibling, friend. The survivors of a loved one's suicide will never be the same. When people are in the depths of misery, they can convince themselves that their loved one's are "better off" without them. Trust me, this is never the case.