Helping People Who Ask The Question........
"Should I Stay or Should I Go?"
Did you just find out your Spouse/Partner is having an affair?
Are you shocked and overwhelmed experiencing a range of emotions?
Feeling angry and scared at the same time?
Can couples survive an affair?
Finding out your partner is having an affair is probably the most devastating thing that could happen to you. Cheating shatters the core of your existence leaving you with feelings of betrayal, rejection, fear, mistrust, grief and anger. It damages your sense of self and leaves you overwhelmed with what to do next. You’re in allot of pain and confused right now. You don’t have to suffer through this alone.
With the right Therapist couples can find their way to a deeper and more intimate bond after an affair despite the feelings of wanting to leave or fantasizing about a divorce. Notable author and Therapist Ester Perel states, “an affair doesn’t necessarily end a marriage and can possibly make it stronger.”
Recovering from infidelity involves the willingness of unfaithful spouses to demonstrate sincere regret and remorse.
Affair Recovery includes:
Teamwork; both spouses must be fully committed to the hard work of getting their marriage back on track.
The unfaithful partner must be willing to end the affair (sexual or emotional) and do whatever it takes to win back the trust of his or her spouse.
Honesty is the most important factor in rebuilding the marriage. The future possibilities for the marriage are not determined by what happened in the affair; they are determined by what happens after the affair is known.
The betrayed spouse must be willing to find ways to manage overwhelming emotions so, as a couple, thay can begin to sort out affair happened,ana more importantly, what needs to change so that it never happens again.
Affairs are less about love and more about boundaries. Affairs can happen in good marriages.
The major attraction in an affair is NOT the love partner but the positive mirroring of the self --"the way I look when I see myself in the other person’s eyes.”
The conventional wisdom is that the person having an affair isn’t “getting enough” at home. That may be true, but often the truth is the person isn’t giving enough.
Most people think that talking about the affair with the spouse will only create more upset, but that is actually the way to rebuild intimacy.
The single best indicator of whether a relationship can survive infidelity is how much empathy the unfaithful partner shows for the pain they have caused.
Gradually rebuild trust - through actions, not promises.
Allow time to heal - although time alone (without effort) is not enough.
As a Marriage Counselor and Infidelity Specialist I have specific training and experience to help explain the sources of infidelity and offer sound and sensible guidelines for mending your relationship. For those of you who are going through the hurt and betrayal of infidelity I am able to help you cope with the raging emotions, make a thoughtful decision about your future, and if you choose to recommit, reclaim a life together.
The couples I work with either 1) relive their trauma and bitterness over and over again, 2) revert to the status of life before the affair, or 3) have the affair become a transformational experience and catalyst for renewal and change for moving forward. Couples can survive infidelity, provided both partners are willing to look honestly at themselves and at each other and acquire the tools needed to guide them through such a shattering crisis.
If you’re struggling with wondering what to do next and asking yourself the question.....”Should I Stay Or Should I Go?,” please call m. I can help you with options to make the right decision for you and your family.
Education/Training
Over 20 years working with Couples
Masters in Counseling Psychology
Private Practice - Solo Practioner
Situational Life Coach
Bio
Hi there. I'm Sarah and welcome to my site.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach I have been providing help to Individuals, Couples and Families with the challenges of Love, Sex, Infidelity, and Affair Recovery. I have been in private practice since 1994 and have transitioned from a traditional psychotherapist utilizing learned standardized psychotherapeutic techniques to a more dynamic results oriented therapist and coach teaching and implementing innovative tools from personal training with the Pioneers of the 21st Century in the field of Relationships.
As a Licensed Therapist I obtain yearly training and education beyond the State requirement to keep abreast with the newest and most effective techniques in helping effectively maintain and repair relationships.
I believe each couple is unique and not all therapies apply like they did in the past. There is no longer that one size fits all and I ensure, with the couple's input, they receive the strategic and psychological "Moving Forward Plan" that is appropriate for their special needs and wants.
I've been married twice, have an adult daughter and an adolescent daughter, a Blended Family, and understand the dynamics of incorporating Extended Family into trying to help make all family members live harmoniously within the family system. Due to life experiences and specialized training I am able to relate to most who come to seek my help.
Over these past 20 years I have been told by current and former clientele that my energy and ability to Self Disclose about similar life circumstances has helped their own process in that they feel encouraged and confident. They report the acquired tools from counseling with me has made a difference in all their relationships.
Counseling with me doesn't necessarily have to be long term. We do, however, need to set the groundwork to get the relationship stabilized where you acquire the tools to maintain it. If you want to do just that please call me today. I'll call you at my earliest convenience.
Payments Accepted
Cash, Check, Visa, Mastercard, Discover
Hours:M-F 10am-7pm, Saturday 10am - 4pm, Sunday by appt.
License:MFC31998
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Life Transitions
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Anger Management
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Loneliness
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Anxiety and Panic
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Marriage & Family Therapy
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Bicultural Difficulties
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Men's Issues
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Body Image Issues
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Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
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Caregiver Issues
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Online / Teletherapy
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Couples
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Psychoanalysis
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Depression
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Relationship Issues
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Divorce
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Self-Esteem Issues
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Eating Disorders
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Sexual Dysfunction
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Family Conflict
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Stress Management
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Gay or Lesbian Issues
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Women's Issues
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Grief and Loss
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Work and Career Issues
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Life and Wellness Coaching
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Licenses/Certifications
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Licensed by the Board of Behavioral Sciences (BBS)
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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)
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