Don’t let your fear limits you! Since 2002, I have been helping women manage difficult situations when they feel like they are losing control, and find the tools they need dealing with shame, guilt, perfectionism and buried dreams. Have you ever felt like your losing control? “How do I keep from falling apart?” Sometimes it is okay to “just be.” But it can only happen if you give yourself permission. The toll of building a career, being a mother, keeping on top of household chores, maintaining some piece of a social life, staying physically fit, and all the rest we have to do…..after all this – it can leave us feeling pretty depleted and lonely. Reach out and get the right therapy for you. Contact us for more information.

Teens and Tweens have more issues to deal with today than ever before...especially with the popularity of texting and social medias such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. They are distracted and emotionally reactive and sometimes they just need to talk to someone other than their parents. I CAN HELP! I have been working with adolescents and their families for the past fifteen years and can guide you through these tough stages....sometimes it only takes a few sessions to get back on track so please call today for a free phone consultation. I have had excellent success in using different interventions and techniques with adolescents including art and play therapy, music, lyrics, videos, and even sports. I am able to build rapport quickly which is very important for the trust and security needed in the beginning of the therapeutic relationship. I accept Medi-Cal for Adults, Teens, and Children and have openings on Saturdays.

My name is Laurie Shear, and I’m a therapist in private practice in San Diego, I’m located in El Cajon and provide marriage, family, individual and relationship counseling as well as therapy for the greater San Diego. I am a graduate of Alliant International University’s Marriage and Family Therapy program. My undergraduate degree was in Sociology at the University of California at Santa Barbara. I have more than 11 years of experience in providing therapy to individuals and couples. While the immediate goal of counseling is to find solutions to challenges in our everyday lives. Individual and family counseling has the additional benefits of boosting self-esteem and confidence, increasing self awareness for healthier decision-making. I hope that my family and individual counseling practice in San Diego can help you with what ever your needs are. I specialize in Anxiety Disorders, Depression, Bipolar Disorder and Domestic Violence issues. I am dedicated to helping people becoming the best version of themselves. Individual Therapy in San Diego Can Help You: Improve your relationship with family, friends –and most importantly yourself. Discover and utilize your unique strengths. Learn effective communication tools. Identify and minimize triggers that worsen your symptoms. Decrease anxiety and depression symptoms. Learn effective anger management skills. See available options in any given situation. Rid yourself of negative thought patterns. Increase self-esteem. Examine underlying issues that are creating problems in your life. Increase your peace of mind and improve your day-to-day living. Some Common issues addressed in Family and Couples Therapy in San Diego: Communications issues Finances Differences in Parenting styles Infidelity Domestic Violence Sexual Issues Children’s Behavioral issues San Diego Family and Couples Therapy Can Help You…. Improve communication skills Provide a safe environment to express your feelings Come to agreements over difficult issues Decrease the stress and negativity in your relationships Increase understanding and empathy for loved ones Increase parenting skills

Did you just find out your Spouse/Partner is having an affair? Are you shocked and overwhelmed experiencing a range of emotions? Feeling angry and scared at the same time? Can couples survive an affair? Finding out your partner is having an affair is probably the most devastating thing that could happen to you. Cheating shatters the core of your existence leaving you with feelings of betrayal, rejection, fear, mistrust, grief and anger. It damages your sense of self and leaves you overwhelmed with what to do next. You’re in allot of pain and confused right now. You don’t have to suffer through this alone. With the right Therapist couples can find their way to a deeper and more intimate bond after an affair despite the feelings of wanting to leave or fantasizing about a divorce. Notable author and Therapist Ester Perel states, “an affair doesn’t necessarily end a marriage and can possibly make it stronger.” Recovering from infidelity involves the willingness of unfaithful spouses to demonstrate sincere regret and remorse. Affair Recovery includes: Teamwork; both spouses must be fully committed to the hard work of getting their marriage back on track. The unfaithful partner must be willing to end the affair (sexual or emotional) and do whatever it takes to win back the trust of his or her spouse. Honesty is the most important factor in rebuilding the marriage. The future possibilities for the marriage are not determined by what happened in the affair; they are determined by what happens after the affair is known. The betrayed spouse must be willing to find ways to manage overwhelming emotions so, as a couple, thay can begin to sort out affair happened,ana more importantly, what needs to change so that it never happens again. Affairs are less about love and more about boundaries. Affairs can happen in good marriages. The major attraction in an affair is NOT the love partner but the positive mirroring of the self --"the way I look when I see myself in the other person’s eyes.” The conventional wisdom is that the person having an affair isn’t “getting enough” at home. That may be true, but often the truth is the person isn’t giving enough. Most people think that talking about the affair with the spouse will only create more upset, but that is actually the way to rebuild intimacy. The single best indicator of whether a relationship can survive infidelity is how much empathy the unfaithful partner shows for the pain they have caused. Gradually rebuild trust - through actions, not promises. Allow time to heal - although time alone (without effort) is not enough. As a Marriage Counselor and Infidelity Specialist I have specific training and experience to help explain the sources of infidelity and offer sound and sensible guidelines for mending your relationship. For those of you who are going through the hurt and betrayal of infidelity I am able to help you cope with the raging emotions, make a thoughtful decision about your future, and if you choose to recommit, reclaim a life together. The couples I work with either 1) relive their trauma and bitterness over and over again, 2) revert to the status of life before the affair, or 3) have the affair become a transformational experience and catalyst for renewal and change for moving forward. Couples can survive infidelity, provided both partners are willing to look honestly at themselves and at each other and acquire the tools needed to guide them through such a shattering crisis. If you’re struggling with wondering what to do next and asking yourself the question.....”Should I Stay Or Should I Go?,” please call m. I can help you with options to make the right decision for you and your family.

Welcome to Lori Underwood Therapy in San Diego! You have access to help TODAY with your most critical relationships! I focus on achieving realistic, lasting results for highly motivated San Diego professionals and their families in two critical areas: work and family relationships. Mine is a solutions-focused therapy practice with a proven track record of training high-performing individuals to guide their most important relationships into balance–quickly and effectively. Work relationships can cause stress, affecting family relationships. Signs of job stress can vary from person to person, depending on the particular situation, how long the individual has been subjected to the stressors, and the intensity of the stress itself. Some symptoms of job stress you may be experiencing include, but are not limited to: •Absenteeism •Anxiety •Depression •Extreme anger and frustration •Family conflict •Insomnia •Loss of mental concentration •Physical illnesses such as heart disease, migraine, headaches, stomach problems, and back problems •Substance abuse Markers indicating your work relationships may be out of balance include: •Feeling burned out •Most everyone you know thinks you’ve got everything together, when inside you feel like you are falling apart •No matter how hard you try you overwhelmingly feel like nothing ever seems to be “good enough” •Others tell you they know you can do it, but deep down you’re left wondering if you can Family relationships that are out of balance can result from and/or be the cause of stress at work. If your stress is affecting–or is a function of–your relationship with your spouse, ask yourself if you are feeling any of the following toward (or from) your spouse: •Contempt •Criticism •Sarcasm •Stonewalling If you are experiencing one or more of the above, now is the time to take action. Each emotion can often represent a marker of a stress fracture in your relationship. The good news is your relationship can be repaired. You have the answers inside you and together we can identify them. Know that there is hope for you and your relationships. I am confident I can help you TODAY.